Self-compassion is a Practice

Self-compassion is a practiceSometimes I don’t have the ability to line words up in a meaningful way. Perfectionism gets in the way. Distraction gets in the way. Shame gets in the way. So many things get in the way of being myself, and being myself means writing. So I’ve been quiet. But here’s what I know- taking care of myself, practicing self-compassion… cultivating these things takes time. I’m learning a whole new skill-set here, and it makes sense that it’s not a smooth run.

There are a million mean things I say to myself about not writing. I don’t want to list them here, but they center around “Toughen up! Get it together!” and contain name-calling like “Lazy” and “Stupid.” With those sort of statements echoing in my mind, it helps to have at least one self-compassion mantra I can grab hold of and employ easily. My mantra is, “Self-compassion is a practice. These things take time.”

Do you have a go-to self-compassion mantra? Words you whisper when you’re really down? I’d love to hear them. We could all use a little help in learning to be kind to ourselves.


8 Replies to “Self-compassion is a Practice”

  1. I have been missing your words, but I know that outside pressure is the last thing you need. You have enough inside pressure. When I am down, I don’t really have words. I have my garden; it is my refuge. I sit among the plants that I have nurtured, watch the bees flit from one bloom to the next, pick the harvest of my labors, feel the sun on my face and the breeze in my hair, and I feel worthy. <3 you!

  2. I have 2 mantras in my head that I have to use to stop some of the insane thinking. The first is “This is the day that the Lord has made, I will rojoice and be glad in it”. The second one is “progress not perfection, progress not perfection”. Both help switch the negative thoughts when they try to rush in. 🙂

  3. I do yoga, though my mantra is be as kind to yourself as you would to others when they are having a hard time. It helps, but I certainly have a hard time belong compassionate with myself…

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