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Trauma Recovery – Shame Resilience – Self-Compassion – Coping With Chronic Pain

I Meet my Pain with Self-Kindness

March 16, 2015 | 2 Comments

I Meet My Pain With Self-Kindness by soangiewrites

If you think I often sit around with my hand on my heart, you’re correct.

If you think I do it because I feel mooshy about myself, let me just say- nope.

I struggle with shame on a regular basis. Shame is the intensely painful feeling that we are unworthy of love and belonging (Brené Brown).

I’ve learned that the feelings of sadness and shame are telling me I need comfort and care.

In relation to others, love is a noun. Something I don’t strive for. I easily ooze love for others.

But when relating to myself, I need a verby kinda love.

When I place my hand on my heart, it triggers the production of oxytocin, a hormone that helps us attach and feel secure.

When I speak validating words like, “this is really hard,” I can feel resistance leave my body.

When I meet my pain with the same level of care I’d bestow on a friend in need, I am entering a sacred space- a communion with myself.

I practice self-kindness in response to difficult emotions to take an active role in my recovery.

I am not weak because of my struggle with shame. I am prompted to learn, inspired to act, empowered to grow.

One day I might look inward and be met by a warm glow of love, but I don’t need that feeling to move forward in my healing journey. Don’t believe me, just watch. 🙂

Click here for more information about the role of oxytocin in self-kindness.

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  1. Thank you for including us in your journey to recovery. You have a way with words that helps us understand, and perhaps teaches us how to heal ourselves, also. xoxo

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