The (10 second) Practice of Dropping Judgement
For just a moment, drop judgement. Allow “I should be” and “I shouldn’t be” to fall from your shoulders. Don’t worry. Gravity will hold you. You will not float away!
What’s left, beneath the ruminating, is you- in realtime. Maybe you’re hurting. Dropping judgement won’t take away pain, but it will remove a piece of the struggle. It will move you from the invalidating space of “I shouldn’t be in pain. I should be able to move around freely,” to a validating space of “I am in pain. I hurt.”
The pain is still there. It is real. Unhooking it from judgement just gives you a little space to heal. With that tiny opening, you may even throw in some self-compassion- “I am in pain. I hurt. This is really hard.”
Dropping judgement is WORK. I can only access the sort of thinking I explain above for ten seconds at a time. That’s how deep the perception of lack runs. That’s how strong the draw of perfectionism is. My hustle calls me. I feel anxiety slip back in. “Fix, fix, fix. Fix up your life.”
Mindfulness isn’t a level of existence. It is not a state to arrive at and settle in. Mindfulness is a practice. In the mere seconds we can bear being present, there our healing lies. Let’s tap in as often as we can.