Take Care of You – Operating in Self-Worth, Even while Feeling Self-Loathing
I know the torment of self-loathing. Of hating my body. Of wanting freedom from pain. I remember a time my EMDR therapist and I were talking about self-worth. I told her I didn’t know what self-worth felt like. She asked an important question, and in an instant, my perception of self-worth changed.
What gets you to therapy? What makes you drive an hour across the city and pay out of pocket to sit here? Could that be your self-worth?
Yes! The truth is, there are a million little ways we operate in self-worth, even when we don’t feel particularly worthy! Think about the times you do the following, and ask why you do them:
hot showers and long baths
coffee and tea breaks
trying a new medication
rubbing balms into dry skin
dragging a weary heart to therapy
massaging those tight spaces at the back of the neck
reaching out to a friend
asking for help
When we do things, and seek things that help us feel and be better, we are practicing self-worth. No sappy feelings are required. In fact, we can practice self-worth even while feeling self-loathing. It takes a commitment to caring for ourselves, and an intention to notice the ways that we care, and why we care. If you really didn’t have self-worth, you wouldn’t be fighting so hard to feel better, right?
You’re here. You matter. You operate in your worth. Remember that. And take care of you. <3