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Trauma Recovery – Shame Resilience – Self-Compassion – Coping With Chronic Pain

A Needs-Aware and Boundaries-Intact Holiday Season

December 13, 2015 | 7 Comments

A Needs-Aware and Boundaries-Intact Holiday Season by #spoonie #boundaries

I endured significant stress in November, on top of all the usual things, like living with C-PTSD and chronic pain, and cooking everything from scratch due to our family’s food allergies.

December rolled up and I sat down. It’s taken great effort to hang lights and decorate a tree.

I took inventory of cards and stamps yesterday, then put them away. I shed some tears. I just can’t do it right now. People will get cards in the new year. Maybe.

For now, I’m shifting attention toward what HAS to be done, and away from things I feel pressured to do, by society, or by my own expectations. I’m even setting aside most of the things I WANT to do, like hosting holiday parties. If I’m going to get through the remainder of 2015 in somewhat healthy condition, I need to focus on the HAVE-TOs, and little else.

I feel disappointed setting this boundary, yet proud to be aware of my spoons. For years I pushed myself into exhaustion and sickness, unaware of my needs and limits. These days I am weighing choices and learning to say no, especially to myself.

This Sunday morning I’m listening to A Motown Christmas and drinking a mocha. I’m wishing you a needs-aware and boundaries-intact holiday season. <3

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    • Angie

      I’m so glad this was helpful, friend. It’s so hard to set boundaries, but imperative for health and endurance. So glad you stopped by today.

  1. Angie, I was thinking of you just the other day as I know this time of year is challenging for you. I was myself feeling a little pressured about getting everything done and all weirded out because this will be the first Christmas without my mum. I love so many things about this time of year, but the expectations we put on ourselves are ridiculous. Let’s just try to do what we can this year, I will be thinking of you, my friend xx

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