February Feelings – Uncomfortable
Welcome to day 11 of February Feelings! I’ve always been a highly emotional person, but didn’t have a large feelings vocabulary until I began practicing Nonviolent Communication. When I look over NVC’s Feelings Inventory, I feel empowered! Being able to name my feelings helps me communicate effectively, especially with myself. Onward, to today’s card-
The dictionary defines uncomfortable as slight pain, or unease. I feel uncomfortable as a curve in my guts, and shallow breathing. I’m a Highly Sensitive Person living with PTSD symptoms and chronic pain. I have BIG FEELZ, tend to be an all-in thinker, and struggle with the myth of permanence. After a seemingly small emotional trigger, I might express myself like this- “I’m afraid! I always feel afraid! I’ll never feel safe!”
Wow. Just writing that statement stirred up some anxiety in me.
When things look big, bad, and permanent, I grab my GROK cards. I often pull the afraid card, the anxious card, and the uncomfortable card. Can you see how those three cards form a continuum of emotion? Uncomfortable is like a 1, anxious a 2, and afraid a 3. With the cards laid out, I scan my body. Afraid feels different than anxious. Anxious feels different than uncomfortable. How often am I feeling discomfort, but expressing full-blown fear? Often. But less often now that I have a Nonviolent Communication skill set.
Whether it’s discomfort, anxiety, or fear, self-compassion is a helpful practice. With a hand on my heart, I can use a compassionate whisper-
I notice I’m feeling ___. This is hard for me right now. I’m going to focus on breathing. Inhale. Exhale.
Thanks, yet again, for reading my thoughts on feelings. I appreciate you. <3