February Feelings – Hopeful
I didn’t sleep much last night, then spent the morning in an intense class about chronic pain. I’m home now, and have a bit of capacity left to dive into today’s GROK card…
I love Nonviolent Communication, but am also invested in Brené Brown’s teachings, and what she found when she looked into hope, is that it isn’t a feeling at all-
Like most people, I always thought of hope as an emotion-like a warm feeling of optimism and possibility. I was wrong. I was shocked to discover that hope is not an emotion; it’s a way of thinking or a cognitive process.
Brené is referring to the work of former researcher C. R. Snyder, who found that hope is a skill set made up of three parts-
- Ability to set realistic goals
- Tenacity and perseverance to pursue those goals
- Belief that we can meet those goals
While the dictionary defines hopeful as feeling optimism about a future event, I place my trust in the research mentioned above. My hopefulness is evident in the arena of my mental health. I live with C-PTSD. My goal is a less-symptomatic life. I see my doctor and stick to lifestyle changes. I go to therapy and read self-help books, and integrate the skills I learn. I sometimes feel defeated, but always circle back to believing I can build a better life. I am tenacious. Scrappy. Focused. Determined. I am hopeful.
When I falter on my recovery path, I reach out to trusted people for support. In that way, I enlist others in my hopefulness process. If you are one of those people in my life, thank you. I truly wouldn’t be where I am without you.
Here’s a link to an excerpt about hope by Brené Brown. I’m interested in what you think about hope as a cognitive function, rather than a feeling. Comments are always open, and I strive to respond to them all. Thank you for reading, and take care. <3