So Angie Writes – Life's A Challenge, So Angie Writes!

So Angie Writes – Life's A Challenge, So Angie Writes!

Trauma Recovery – Shame Resilience – Self-Compassion – Coping With Chronic Pain


All of the posts under the "Shame" category.



June 29th. That’s the last time I posted here. I feel sad about that. I am self-compassionate about that. My attention’s been elsewhere…

I started a small business! I’m baking allergen-free treats and selling them locally!

It’s been… challenging.

Walking into this vulnerable space has triggered shame feelings. I’ve been hearing you’re not good enough!Continue reading

Angie September 19, 2016 Leave A Comment Permalink

Moving in Shame – Unhealthy Ways we Cope with Self-Worth Injuries

Moving in Shame - I relate to this little toy soldier wearing armor and wielding a weapon

Three years ago I read Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly, in which she shares her research, revealing shame as a universally-felt emotion.

I define shame as the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging – something we’ve experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection.

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Angie June 23, 2016 2 Comments Permalink

When Chronic Pain Causes Shame, I Practice Self-Compassion

This post was originally published on Counting My Spoons in September, 2015. I thank Julie for providing the opportunity to share my voice with a large Spoonie community, and encourage you to check out her blog, Facebook page, and Twitter feed.

When Chronic Pain Causes Shame, I Practice Self-Compassion by

Hi, I’m Angie. I live with Endometriosis, Pelvic Floor Dysfunction, Neural Tension, and C-PTSD.… Continue reading

Monday Mantra – Deconstructing Harmful Beliefs (Shame)

Monday Mantra - Deconstructing Harmful Beliefs (Shame) by
Today I woke late, and trudged downstairs to a messy kitchen.

“This place is a mess. It should be clean. Why can’t I get it clean? I’m home all the time, so why isn’t it clean? I am lazy and incompetent. I suck at homemaking. I suck at life.”

Readers, how did that make you feel, to read what went through my head this morning?… Continue reading

Angie October 26, 2015 6 Comments Permalink

Deconstructing a Shame Sandwich – A Healthy Choice

Deconstructing a Shame Sandwich - A Healthy Choice by

My oldest Teen is learning to play the piano. Last night I heard a crash upstairs. I found him cradling an injured hand. His keyboard was on the floor, the stand collapsed. Here’s what I heard-

“I’m so stupid. I tried to adjust the stand without removing the keyboard. I can’t believe I’m so stupid!”

I got him an icepack for the squished hand, and tried to think of an empathic way to address the shame message he’d expressed.… Continue reading

Angie October 6, 2015 2 Comments Permalink

Angie September 4, 2015 4 Comments Permalink

Shame Stories and Chronic Pain – Using Mindfulness to Heal

I woke up confused- fresh off a vivid, violent dream, and hurting from head to toe. Some days seem set before my feet hit the floor. Eyes open to yesterday’s struggles, and I’m wishing for a Teflon brain, so all my troubles could slide right off.

Painful mornings stack up, making it easy to slip into a story…

I feel too much pain.Continue reading

Angie August 12, 2015 5 Comments Permalink

Speaking Shame

For many years I have experienced moments of deep emotional pain. I believe these spells began in childhood, and still occasionally happen. It starts with some sort of upsetting circumstance, usually around relationships, or my physical health. Dark feelings descend from above, pressing my head down, bending my back, pushing me to the floor.… Continue reading

Angie July 21, 2015 8 Comments Permalink

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Angie March 16, 2015 2 Comments Permalink

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