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Trauma Recovery – Shame Resilience – Self-Compassion – Coping With Chronic Pain

Shame

All of the posts under the "Shame" category.

Write to Heal

I wrote nine poems today, none of which fit here. This space is kept somewhat sanitized for twenty or so reasons.

I’m learning to fully feel emotions, letting myself sink on in. I find new awareness in loopy pink letters. I often don’t know what I’m thinking until I see it on paper.… Continue reading

Angie March 9, 2015 2 Comments Permalink

Shame Resilience- Where to Begin

I often speak of shame’s effect on my life, usually in conjunction with courage and recovery. I began learning about shame two years ago, and doing so led to major changes.

The first thing I learned about shame was its definition, which is grounded in Dr. Brené Brown’s research. The first part of Dr.… Continue reading

Angie February 3, 2015 9 Comments Permalink

The Shame of Failed Relationships

C.G. Jung said, “knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.”

When things go awry in relationships, I turn inward, letting shame envelop me.

“I always mess up.”
“I don’t understand myself.”
“I am all wrong.”

As I seek healing, I strive to find other points of view and positive reframes.… Continue reading

Angie January 28, 2015 6 Comments Permalink

Angie January 5, 2015 10 Comments Permalink

Angie December 6, 2014 9 Comments Permalink

Sharing as an Act of Survival

Sharing as an Act of Survival by soangiewrites.com

I am simultaneously compelled to tell my story and driven to hide it. It’s a predicament. Letting the book fall open, being vulnerable, showing up, speaking out, and cringing all the while- this is my journey. I share because I don’t want to be alone. I share because I don’t want you to be alone.… Continue reading

Angie September 23, 2014 4 Comments Permalink

The Known Suffering- Why I Resist Self-Compassion

The Known Suffering - Why I Resist Self-Compassion by SoAngieWrites.com #shame #recovery #selfcompassion

It can feel daunting to learn a task so far from your habitual way of living that it seems otherworldly. That’s how self-compassion feels. Otherworldly. But I have to ask, these years of self-loathing… where have they gotten me? Has cutting myself up and down helped? Has berating beautified me? Or have I broken myself to the point that the only thing left is to try something altogether different?… Continue reading

Angie August 26, 2014 5 Comments Permalink

Collected – The Early Messages of Shame

Every sigh
Alarmed look
Warning word
Intended as care
Yet reflecting rejection
Collected
In a brain set
Against itself
As it was trained to be
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Shame begins as a two-person exchange, usually in early childhood, when someone was unable to meet our needs for love and belonging. When we internalize the feeling and learn to use it against ourselves, those early messages of being too much, or not enough, strengthen.… Continue reading

Angie July 19, 2014 7 Comments Permalink

Angie June 5, 2014 3 Comments Permalink

Shame: The Non-Motivator

I feel perpetually behind, hyperaware of the not-done, focused on the lack, and aching to be free. I need to finish up an e-course and a book for a local club. The upstairs shower is half-tiled and there’s a work station to be built downstairs.

I want to take my writing up a notch.… Continue reading

Angie May 22, 2014 6 Comments Permalink

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